Death of a loved one is the most difficult thing we have to experience. Their passing literally breaks our heart. Sometimes, the pain seems unbearable.
First, just breath when the pain comes, it will pass. Over time it becomes less.
Allow yourself to grieve. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D. wrote some great books on the process. Move through the emotions: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. If you feel angry at God, express it. He/She can take it. Sometimes it helps to talk to people about your feelings. It will speed up the process of grieving.
Spend time in deep meditation and access the realms of inner light. There is a peace and love in that Light that is healing to the soul, mind, emotions and body. It will give you the strength to be with your loved ones during this painful process.
Make peace with your life. Forgive them for any hurt they may have caused you. Forgive yourself for any harm you may have done them.
Let them go. If they are really dying, they need to move on. If you are emotionally holding on, it can keep them from moving on. Accept this aspect of life and trust that your life will continue.
Develop a strong inner life that is awake and you will be able to feel your loved one’s wherever they are. This helps to soften the sense of loss. You may still miss them in your everyday life, but you will feel less separated from then on the inside.
Let yourself just be with your loved one. You don’t have to “do” something to help them. Your presence is a great gift and comfort. They will feel your love and be nurtured by it.